By Abidemi Samuel
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As Nigeria grapples with the challenges of economic hardship, a quieter crisis is unfolding. The pressure to provide for their families has become a crushing weight for many men, leading to a silent suffering that is often overlooked.
According to experts, the traditional notion that men must be strong and stoic is exacerbating the problem. Men are often reluctant to express their emotions or seek help, fearing that it will be seen as a sign of weakness.
The consequences of this silence can be devastating. Depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and even suicide are becoming increasingly common among men in Nigeria.
Idris, a 45-year-old father of two, is one of the many men struggling to cope with the pressure. Despite working as a gate man at a beer parlour, he earns a meager N16,000 per month, which is barely enough to feed his family.
“I trek to work every day to manage my salary,” he said. “I feel like a failed man who cannot provide for his family.”
Akinsanya, a 37-year-old father of three, is another victim of the economic hardship. Despite having a wife who works, he feels the pressure to provide for his family.
“I was brought up with the mentality that men are to shoulder the responsibilities,” he said. “I don’t want my wife to shoulder the responsibilities, although I want to change that mindset, but I cannot.”
Experts warn that the situation is likely to worsen unless urgent action is taken. Dr. Abayomi Olajide, Secretary General of the Association of Psychiatrists in Nigeria, said that men’s mental health is often overlooked, but it is a critical issue that needs to be addressed.
“Men are often reluctant to express their emotions or seek help, fearing that it will be seen as a sign of weakness,” he said. “But this silence can have devastating consequences, including depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and even suicide.”
Olajide emphasized that society needs to change its attitude towards men’s mental health. “We need to begin to look at men as people with feelings and emotions, who can be hurt, disappointed, and can cry,” he said.
The government also has a critical role to play in addressing the issue. Olajide urged the government to invest in mental health services, provide opportunities for self-improvement, and promote sporting activities that can help men deal with pressure and challenges.
As Nigeria continues to grapple with the challenges of economic hardship, it is essential that we do not forget the silent suffering of our men. We must work together to create a society that supports men’s mental health and encourages them to speak out without fear of judgment or stigma.
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